ANATOMY OF " LOVE "....( HOW I THINK IT IS VERSION )

Today i feel like dissecting all the petals of life with tools of reason and faith. So let me begin with the most talked, hyped and cherished feeling.....(love).Before i begin, i specify that it is only about what Adam had for Eve, not what krishna had for Yashoda. It will come in my next few posts but for writing that i will have to ascend to a different frequency altogether.So now i talk of love of a man for a woman or otherwise.
We humans are a strange race.not strange because of our "id" but because of our superego.Here i shamelessly admit that i have two versions ....one one of how i think it is and another one that how i feel it is and should be. And i am afraid both are not very much same .So it is kinda paradox in itself . but be it any version the best thing is "IT PROVIDES WITH ANSWERS"

" LOVE" is very easy to fall in . But hardly do we realise that there are milllions in this world who have went through this same experience and some simultaneously still are.but since we percieve it to be so personal , so divine that for a moment it seems that it is only us that who has been in love. Have u ever considered that love which we feel today is not the product of that one moment ? The fact that "love at first sight " is actually a produce of thousands years of evolution.
Years ago man was the hunter , the food gatherer,the physically strong and outgoing in the family ......while a woman was mostly down with pregnancy in her best years (Alas the abscence of contraception and womans lib).So she had but no choiice to assume the role of the home maker . And since the very basis of our humankind is "symbiosis",, man brought food and woman nurtured the family.made home an attractive place where a man would love to come at the end of the day.
Well now lemme explain where all this is leading to ......."A woman is more faithfull than man"(can be interprted as a "Woman loves more than a man"). Since man was a the foodgatherer ,the hunter, the pleasure he derived from hunting/conquering got encrypted in to his genes. So while woman had only a few eggs in store and was dependent on her man she had not much choice but to be monogamous(or the tendency to it ),while the man who had millions of seeds to scatter throughout the globe and fr whom hunting was one of his basic instincts; was and till date is by nature polygamous. I dont say this as a m.c.p. or as an applause but as a fact.
So if we talk about making a choice in falling in love or rising in it . I think that will be like just being the part of the virtual world (remember MATRIX ?).
So what is it actually that makes us fall in love ??? looks ? that one ryt act at the ryt time( time wen u were available and ready fr it)? nature of the persion ? power ?wealth ?or that "je ne sas quoi"? that cosmic magic????
Well now i see a lots of eyebrows shooting up. but trust me folks u can not choose amongst these . It is a potpourrie of all these in strange proportions. and now pls dont be stupid and say "i dont care about the looks , the money, the power... blah blah blah . OF COURSE YOU DO. Well if u had a choice how wud u want ur lover to be ......with theses or without these ?? Dnt answer me.... answer urself.
And lastly what i feel "keeps love alive and rise" is not the unision in it but rather defeciency. there is no 'happily everafter'. just think of all the great love stories of the world...(some wonderfull ppl fall in love and they die in the end while still yearning fr their beloved. Thus STILL RISING IN LOVE.
Take laila majnoo ,romeo juliet , heer ranjha , shiri farhad ...those are the ones i can recall here fr the time being (ya ya ya there was a certain jack ,a tom , a dick and harry whos story was different) But get the basic idea mates.I am sure if these ppl had really been united and a follow up was done after a few years we wud be seeing Majnu flirting outside and Ranjha eyeing his next door pretty lass.so it seems that YOU HAVE TO LOOSE IN LOVE(or the illusion of it) TO RISE IN LOVE......

MADHUR UNIYAL

p.s. this was my 'wat i think it is' version. my 'what i feel 'version is due in the next post.